I used to fake it.
Not because I didn’t want to come — I just didn’t know how to ask for what I actually needed. Most guys would slide two fingers in and start jackhammering like they were trying to find a lost set of keys. It felt… invasive. Mechanical. Sometimes even painful.
Then one night, a lover changed everything. He didn’t even start inside me. He spent twenty minutes just teasing my inner thighs, breathing warm against my skin, and tracing slow circles around my entrance with one single fingertip. By the time he finally slid inside, I was so wet and open that one gentle “come here” motion had me shaking in under a minute.
That’s when I learned the real secret:
Great fingering isn’t about what you do with your fingers.
It’s about what you do with your entire presence.
Start With Your Tongue, Not Your Fingers
The best way to finger a girl isn’t just about your fingers. The real secret most men miss is this: **start with your tongue**.
When you combine oral with fingering, you give her the kind of intense, wet pleasure that makes her lose control completely. The tongue relaxes her, gets her dripping wet, and opens her up — so when your fingers finally enter, her body welcomes them instead of tensing up.
The Yoni Massage Flow
1. Get her wet first
Kiss her inner thighs. Breathe warmly against her skin. Use long, slow licks. The longer you tease her, the wetter and more desperate she becomes. This is how you open her up.
2. Focus on her clit
Once she’s soaked and breathing harder, use the flat, smooth part of your tongue in steady, rhythmic circles or long licks right on her clit. Most women need consistent pressure here — changing speed or technique too often can pull her right out of the moment.
3. Find your rhythm
When she starts moaning louder or grinding against your face, lock in that rhythm and don’t change it. This is the moment her body starts building toward something deeper.
4. Add your fingers
Slide two fingers inside her and curl them in a gentle “come here” motion against her front wall while your tongue keeps that same steady rhythm on her clit. This combination is often what pushes her over the edge into an intense, wet orgasm.
5. Don’t stop
When she gets close, whatever you’re doing — **don’t stop**. Keep the exact same speed and pressure. Many women say this is the part that makes the difference between a good orgasm and one that leaves her shaking.
Pro Tip:
Don’t be afraid to let her hear you moan while you’re down there. Women love knowing they’re driving you wild — your sounds turn her on just as much as hers turn you on.
Ready to give her the kind of pleasure she’ll never forget?
With love and very wet intentions,
Lisa Sweet
On behalf of The Society for Better Cunnilingus
