I thought squirting was something only porn stars could do.
For years I watched those videos and felt… broken. Like my body was missing some special button that other women had. I’d get close sometimes — that deep, urgent pressure building — but I always stopped myself, terrified I was going to pee.
Then one night, a lover refused to let me stop. He looked me in the eyes and said, “Just let go. I want all of you.” He kept that steady, firm pressure on my G-spot while his tongue stayed locked on my clit. When the wave finally hit, I didn’t just squirt — I *exploded*. It was the most intense, freeing, and slightly terrifying orgasm of my life.
That night changed everything. I realized most women don’t squirt because no one ever taught them (or their partners) how to create the right conditions.
The Truth About Squirting
Real squirting isn’t the dramatic waterfall you see in porn. That’s usually forced or fake. What we’re talking about here is **female ejaculation** — a warm, wet release that happens when the G-spot and Skene’s glands are properly stimulated and she completely lets go.
It requires three things:
- Deep, consistent G-spot pressure (not fast jackhammering)
- Her feeling completely safe and turned on
- Her being willing to “let go” instead of holding back
The Step-by-Step Method
1. Warm her up properly
Spend at least 15–20 minutes on foreplay. Kiss her, tease her thighs, lick her clit until she’s dripping and begging. The more aroused she is, the more likely she is to squirt.
2. Find her G-spot
Slide two fingers inside her and curl them upward in a “come here” motion. You’ll feel a slightly spongy, walnut-textured area about 2–3 inches in on the front wall. That’s her G-spot.
3. Use firm, steady pressure
Once you find it, don’t poke or jab. Use firm, rhythmic pressure — like you’re pressing a button that needs to be held down. Combine this with your tongue on her clit in steady circles.
4. Build her up and back off (Edging)
When she starts getting close, slow down or pull back slightly. Do this 2–3 times. The longer you edge her, the more intense the release will be.
5. When she’s about to come — don’t stop
When her breathing gets shallow, her thighs start shaking, and she says “I feel like I’m going to pee” — that’s the moment. Keep the exact same pressure and rhythm. Tell her to let go. This is where most women hold back. Encourage her. “I want it. Give it to me.”
Pro Tip:
The first time she squirts, it might feel like she’s peeing. Reassure her. The liquid is mostly water and comes from the Skene’s glands — it’s not urine. The more she trusts you, the more she’ll let go.
Ready to give her the most intense orgasm of her life?
With love and very wet intentions,
Lisa Sweet
On behalf of The Society for Better Cunnilingus
