I used to think all cunnilingus positions were basically the same.
Then one rainy Sunday afternoon, a lover pulled me to the edge of the bed, dropped to his knees, and showed me I was very, very wrong.
The angle was completely different. His tongue hit places it had never reached before. I came so fast and so hard I actually laughed afterward — that shocked, giddy kind of laugh that only happens when your body surprises you.
That’s when I understood: position is everything.
The right position doesn’t just make it easier for him — it changes how she feels, how deep the pleasure goes, and how completely she can surrender. Some positions give her control. Others let her fully relax and receive. Some make her feel powerful. Others make her feel deliciously small and taken care of.
Here are the positions that consistently turn good oral into the kind of pleasure that makes women forget their own names.
1. The Throne (Seated Facesitting)
She kneels over your face while you lie on your back. This is the ultimate position for women who love control and deep pressure. She can grind exactly how she wants, set the pace, and use your tongue like her own personal toy. Many women say this is the position that finally lets them orgasm from oral — because they’re in charge of the angle and pressure.
Pro tip: Place a pillow under your head so you can reach her more comfortably. And don’t be afraid to use your hands on her hips to guide her rhythm.
2. The Muff Diver (Classic Missionary Oral)
She lies on her back, legs spread or bent. You lie between her thighs, face down. This is the most popular and beginner-friendly position for a reason — it’s intimate, comfortable, and gives you full access to her clit, lips, and entrance. Perfect for long, slow sessions where you can really take your time.
Pro tip: Slide a pillow under her hips. It changes the angle dramatically and makes her clit much easier to reach.
3. Edge of the Bed
She lies on her back with her hips right at the very edge of the bed. You kneel or stand on the floor. This gives you incredible leverage and keeps your neck comfortable for much longer sessions. It’s also incredibly hot visually — she’s completely open and on display for you.
Pro tip: Hold her thighs or wrap your arms under her legs for deeper access and a feeling of being deliciously restrained.
4. 69 (Side-by-Side or Classic)
Mutual pleasure at its finest. Whether she’s on top or you’re lying side-by-side, 69 creates an incredibly intimate, connected experience. The best part? She can focus on her own pleasure without feeling like she has to “perform” for you. Many women find they can finally relax and orgasm when they’re also giving pleasure.
Pro tip: The side-by-side version is often more comfortable for longer sessions and feels more equal and loving.
5. Face Down, Ass Up
She’s on her knees or lying face-down with her hips slightly raised. This position gives you a completely different angle and often creates deeper, more intense sensations. Many women find this position makes them feel wonderfully exposed and submissive — which can be incredibly arousing.
Pro tip: Reach around and use your fingers on her clit at the same time. The combination of your tongue from behind and fingers from the front is devastatingly effective.
The real secret?
The “best” position is the one that makes her feel the most pleasure in that moment. Pay attention to her body. Ask her. Experiment together. The most powerful orgasms usually come from the positions she feels most safe and turned on in.
Ready to go deeper?
With love and very wet intentions,
Lisa Sweet
On behalf of The Society for Better Cunnilingus
