I first heard about the Venus Butterfly from an older lover who swore it was the one technique that made women come harder and longer than anything else.
I was skeptical. I’d tried plenty of “secret moves” before that turned out to be nonsense. But one night he decided to show me instead of just talking about it.
He started slow — soft, flat-tongue strokes on my clit while two fingers curled deep inside me. Then he did something I’d never felt before. While his tongue stayed locked on my clit, his thumb gently pressed and circled my perineum (that sensitive spot between my vagina and ass) in perfect rhythm. The combination was fucking devastating.
I came so hard I actually blacked out for a second. When I came back to earth, he was still going — and I came again. And again. I lost count after the fourth orgasm.
That night I understood why they call it the Venus Butterfly. It’s not just one move. It’s a full-sensory experience that hits her from every angle at once.
What Is the Venus Butterfly?
The Venus Butterfly is a powerful combination technique that stimulates three key areas at the same time:
- Clit — with your tongue (steady, rhythmic pressure)
- G-spot — with two fingers inside her (firm “come here” motion)
- Perineum — with your thumb (gentle circling or pressure)
When all three are stimulated together in rhythm, it creates a full-body, deep, rolling orgasm that most women have never experienced before.
How to Do the Venus Butterfly
1. Get her dripping wet first
Spend time teasing her. Lick her slowly, suck her nipples, kiss her inner thighs until she’s squirming and begging. The wetter she is, the better this works.
2. Start with your tongue on her clit
Use the flat part of your tongue in slow, steady circles or long licks. Find a rhythm she likes and lock into it. Don’t change it when she gets close.
3. Add two fingers inside her
Slide two fingers in and curl them upward against her G-spot with firm, rhythmic pressure. Match the rhythm of your tongue.
4. Add your thumb on her perineum
While your tongue works her clit and your fingers work her G-spot, gently press and circle your thumb on the sensitive spot between her vagina and anus. This adds a deep, grounding pressure that most women have never felt during oral.
5. Keep the rhythm steady and don’t stop
When she starts shaking and moaning, stay locked in. The magic happens when all three points are being stimulated at the same time without breaking rhythm. This is what creates those long, rolling, full-body orgasms.
Pro Tip:
The Venus Butterfly works best when she’s already highly aroused. Don’t rush into it. Build her up with regular oral first, then switch to this technique when she’s dripping and desperate. The contrast makes it even more intense.
Ready to give her the most intense orgasm of her life?
With love and very wet intentions,
Lisa Sweet
On behalf of The Society for Better Cunnilingus
